Take time

With a new modern clock ticking in all young girls mind is choice between love and marriage. Your wrinkles vs your experience.

Your age vs your responsibility.

Your passion vs your duty.

 What is marriage now, or what has it ever been? – just a painful suffering, a long suffering, with false smiling faces. At the most it can be just a convenience, a deal , a compromise.When I say this, I don’t mean that if you can love more people you will not go into marriage. As far as I see, a person who can love more will not go into marriage only for love. He will go into marriage for deeper things. Please understand me: if a person loves many people(i mean parents, family, friends) then there is no reason to marry someone only because of love – because he can love many people without marriage, so there is no reason.

 Forcing everyone to go into marriage because of love as you cannot love outside it, so we have unnecessarily forced love and marriage to be together. Marriage is for deeper things even more deep: for intimacy, for a “co-inherence,” to work on something which cannot be done alone, which can be done together, which needs a togetherness, a deep togetherness. Because of this love-starved society, we fall into marriage out of romantic love.

Assuming alone love can be a great base for marriage is not apt, because love is fun and play. If you marry someone for love you will be frustrated, because soon the fun is gone, the newness is gone, and boredom sets in. Marriage is for deep friendship, deep intimacy. Love is implied in it, but it is not alone. So marriage is spiritual. It is spiritual. There are many things which you can never develop alone. Even your own growth needs someone to respond, someone so intimate that you can open yourself totally to him or her. Relationships are like a tapestry... The fabric is strongest when the threads are spun with openness, love and trust. Let me be the first to display these strengths

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